Friday, December 22, 2006
20/12/06---MY FIRST VOTE......
right from childhood my family hs been asociated with elections deeply bt this time it ws my chance to get involved... i felt proud of the fact that now i also hv a say in elections i can take my own decisions...
even i also have the power to contribute to the future of this country...
yes u might thing that i hv gone crazy n its just 1 vote n am saying so much bt believe me ask the importance of 1 vote from that poltician who lost by 1 vote....
it ws a gr8 feeling......
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
Kissing Explained!!!
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French Kissing This is the most popular type of kiss. This involves touching your tongue with your partner's and it can be quite a pleasant experience. There are a few tips to create a great french kiss. |
Open Lips - Open your lips over your partner's slightly more than you would during a regular kiss. This makes it easier to place your tongue in your partner's mouth. |
Lips - You may explore different ways of using your tongue. Try running the tip of your tongue over your partner's lips. Do this slowly and gently, just using the tip of your tongue. |
Suck Kissing This can be a very seductive type of kiss. Instead of French Kissing with your mouth open, while your partner's lips are parted suck on their top our bottom lip with your own, just for a second or two. Then go back to another type of kiss or try the other lip. |
Tuesday, October 17, 2006
Entry for October 17, 2006
well i guess 1 reason cn be... a fact that has been proved wrong in my life...
i always believed that i understand girls n whats going on inside them...bt in the past week or so.. i realized am wrong... i dnt understand ny1.. i dont understand feelings..well i think i dnt understand myself.. thn who can i understand ny1 else...
well from all this i hv learnt 1 thing.. dnt think abt ny1 else b4 doing sumthing coz u nvr know whats going on in other person's mind especially girls...
bt still sumwhere in my heart i think i know n understand girls.. may be i hv been proved wrong.. bt i guess that wsn't my fault it was other person's fault.. i guess thay also dnt know themself....
lets forget everything... n enjoy the festive season... n just trust me life will be good... afterall its ur life make it large... n enjoy it to the full extent...
n as i always say no1 is worth... stopping ur life for...stop thinking abt those who dont care 4 u.... 1 day u'll find sm1 who will think like u n will understand u... n that my fren is the person made 4 u........
so ENJOY LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Monday, October 16, 2006
Entry for October 16, 2006~~lessons from life...
first let me brief about what all happened in my life... starting with something coz of which my life ws really down for the past few weeks.. now that relationship confusion is kindoff over.. bt not so easily... in the process of relieving me from that tention i hd to hurt some1 bt i guess that ws necessary... both for me n her... n i know she'll understand n we'll be good frens soon..... besides that ws really busy with exams n all....
i forgot to mention 1 thing... there was sumthing else too that helped me get out of all my problems n tenstion..it ws MURIOUS'06 the first tech fest of juit{my coll} of which i ws an organiser...
continuing with my life... got some new frens,some really good 1's bt i guess.... relationships always comes with problems... some made me feel really special but then after a few days... whn she had a good place in my life as a gr8 fren.. let me down..... i worked on her to make her compatible with the coll n professional life... coz i knew ppl like her are just on the verge of being pissed of by the world which i didnt wanted... bt i guess i cant prepare some1 for difficult times in life... coz whn problems come u forget everything..so u can just learn from life n no 1 can explain life to u.... bt for now i can say 1 thing i lost some1 special... bt it doesn't matter coz i hv learned so much in my life now... that all these things doesn't matter whts imp is.. i took her as a gr8 fren n i did my part as a fren bt if she still want to act like a kid n want to do whatever she wish.. i cant help her... i just hope she doesn't have to face the harsh realities of life n people...
leving everything beside.. all these things hardly matter coz i hate tentions inlife now n i dont wanna get tensed or senti coz of anything like this.. i mean i wanna enjoy life... n dont wanna ruin it by thinking about every1 else...
trust me frens... i hv lernt a few things in life...
>u never know whoz ur fren n whoz nt.... so think b4 trusting sum1
>dont ever stop living ur life coz of sum1 else..no1's worth it...
>there should be no1 in ur life whom u cant leave in 20secs...
>life is short... live it up..n enjoy every moment...
well there's lots much to write about bt may be l8r... not in a mood to write more catch u soon till then take very good care of urself n live every moment.... a very happy diwali n eid mubarak in advance.....
Tuesday, August 29, 2006
Entry for August 28, 2006
kabhi khushi kabhi gum....
1 day whn i ws happy n ws abt to write a blog entry... life became upside down... it ws a weird period... full of ups n downs....
hmm u must be wondering ki meri life hi aisi kyun hai baki kisi ki life to aisi nahin hai...
well life is nvr gud or bad---its just ur state of mind... the way it handles diff situations....
waise dekha jaye to it ws a confusing time for me,my mind n for my hrt... ws stuck in the net of relationships.... wht relation tht to i also dnt know coz tht ws the problem........
finally am out of it bt trust me the results r nt in my favour..... n acc.. to my sixth sense.. afteraffects will also be nt in my favour....
a bad period is abt to begin bt i think this tiem i'll hv to do sumthing... afterall i hv to survive....
nyways will write more l8r on.... busy with exams n controling emotions rt now....
u tc n njoy life.........
bt b4 ending this entry..... here's a link of a gr8 section at my fav website www.lovingyou.com
http://scripts.lovingyou.com/mdb/search.cgi?mdb=quotes&cat=lostlove
this page contains something tht i really liked...
n dnt forget to read the entry just below this entry... i think this is the rt time to post those lines...
Aankhain Kitna Rooti Hain--ws waiting for the right time to post this.....
here they are:-----
Tum Kia Jano Yaadon Main Kho Kar Aankhain Kitna Rooti Hain
Dil Main Dard Samoo Kar Aankhain Kitna Rooti Hain
Tum Kia Jano Sawan Ka Mousam Kitni Aagg Lagata Hai
Barish Ki Bondoon Ko Choo Kar Aankhain Kitna Rooti Hain
Ab To Chooti Si Baat Par Bhi Yeh Dil Bhar Sa Jata Hai
Halki Si Dil Ko Lagti Hai Thokar Aankhain Kitna Rooti Hain
Ab Tu Yeh Jeena Bhi Hum Ko Boojh Sa Lagta Hai
Din Bhar Is Baat Ko sooch Kar Aankhain Kitna Rooti Hain
Zakham Zakham Hain Aakhain Meri Maazi Ki Parchain Si
Apnay Undar Lahoo Daboo Kar Aankhain Kitna Rooti Hain
Tum Ek Duniya Lai Gai Ho Tum Ko Kia Ehsaas
In Rahoon Main Tanha Si Ho Kar Aankhain Kitna Rooti Hain
{my fav line.....}
Saturday, July 22, 2006
July 21, 2006
down
n
down......... consecutively 4 the past 3 days...
dont know whats more in store for me......
is there any place on earth left for me where i ca gt some peace n happiness????
Thursday, July 20, 2006
Tuesday, July 18, 2006
SALUTING MUMBAI!!!!
Salute Mumbai's never-say-die spirit and Light a Candle for those who succumbed to the blasts or got injured. For every candle you light, CNN-IBN and Channel 7 will donate Re 1 for the relief of the victims.
http://clients.ibnlive.com/features/mumatt/index.php
(a tip:while filing the photo id code on this page remember it is case sensitive)
Tuesday, July 11, 2006
ANOTHER SELF COMPOSED 'QUOTE'
i wud appreaciate ur comments...
Wednesday, June 28, 2006
JUNE26-JUNE27-2DAYS...ENTIRELY DIFF...2DIFF STORIES....ENTIRELY SAME..
dont ask me what happened.... i wont be able to tell u....
am not sad coz i kow ups n downs r a part of life....but ppl downs always hurt... n more than the happiness that we get whn life is up.... am i rt.....
Wednesday, June 14, 2006
Bye Bye!!!!
till then tc n keeep--smilingggg
n dont 4get to visit http://www.passionvaibhav.co.nr
will try to update the blogs!!!
byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tuesday, June 6, 2006
Shayari From Fanaa
Use Mera ya Mujhe Uska Karde.
Bahut Dukh Sahe He Maine,
Koi Khusi Ab Toh Muqadar Karde.
Bahot Muskil Lagta Hai Usse Duur Rehna,
Judai Ke Safar Ko Kum Karde.
Jitna Duur Chale Gaye Woh Mujhse,
Use Utna Kareeb Karde.
Nahi Likha Agar Nasib Me Uska Naam,
To Khatam Kar Ye Zindagi aur Mujhe FANAA Karde.
Tere Dile mein meri saanson ko panah mil jaaye
Tere Ishq mein meri Jaan Fanaa Ho jaayeÄ.
Ankhen to pyar me dilki zuban hoti hai,
sachi chahat to sada bezuban hoti hai,
pyar mai dard bhi mile to kya gabrana,
suna hai dard se chahat aur jawan hoti hai....
Phool hun Gulaab kaÄ?
Chameli ka mat samjhnaÄ?
Aashiq hun aapkaÄ?
Apni Saheli ka mat samjhnaÄ
Dur Humse Jaa Paoge Kaise,
Humko Bhool Paoge Kaise.
Hum Who Khushbu Jo Saanson Mein Utar Jaye,
Khud Apni Saanson Ko Rok Paoge Kaise..
Bekhudi Ki Zindagi Hum Jiya Nahi Karte,
Yun kisika ka Jaam Hum Piya Nahi Karte.
Unse Kehdo Mohabbat Ka Izhaar Aakar Khud Karein,
Yun Kisika Peecha Hum kiya Nahin KarteÄ
RONE DE TU AAJ HAMAKO TU AANKHE SUJANE DE
BAHO ME LELE AUR KHUD KO BHEEG JANE DE
HAI JO SEENE ME QUAID DARIYA WO CHUT JAYEGA
HAI ITANA DARD KI TERA DAMAN BHEEG JAYEGA..
tere dil mein meri saanson ko panah mil jaaye
tere ishq mein meri jaan fanaa ho jaaye
adhoori saans thi dhadkan adhoori thi adhooren ham
magar ab chaand poora hain falak pe aur ab pooren hain ham
Sunday, May 28, 2006
why.....why....why???????
why is that the path of love is always full of pain..obstructions..tears????why why why?????
why cant the world let two lovers enjoy their happy life?why are they so jealous of their happiness????i mean whats the problem with ppl,why is that they always put their leg in between these matters,cant they help to make others relationship's successfull....
cant two persons decide abt their own life or is it something that only parents n other elders have to decide.....
i mean a relation of love is always full of obstructions related to caste,creed,age n all other inhuman stuff... i mean r all these thing so imp.....
n is love so week that it cant overcome all these obstructions or ny other problem....
i guess not.. so here goes a call for all lovers......
hey ppl show the power of love.....show that nither love nor u r week... n if u hv decided to move on this path..then i think there's no point in backing up just coz u r afraid of crossing obstructions... i mean these r just the very basic problems... there r even more bigger problems in this world... so if u cant even clear these obstuctions then am afraid its not love....
be brave... take ur life seriouslly carefully n responsibly.....
By all these words i simply mean make ur stand in life make ur future indipendent...coz if u have a stand in life then no one has the right to control it...n therefore ur decisions will be respected...
always remember....
"do ur best n god will do the rest"
so just F**K the world...n trust only ur heart...
coz ppl ur heart wont ever misguide u.......TRUST meeee......
keep-smiling---n---let the love grow.....
Monday, May 1, 2006
Am Soooo Soorrrrrrryyy
"when love invades frenship fades" in real sense that story ended 2day....
wanna know whats the final conclusion of that story....
well everything between us is now normal we r frens now.....
n we hv cleared everything between us no dispute now...
waise ab mujhe samaj bhi aa gaya hai that this is what love is all abt...whn u r in a relationship n that too very serious n u start considering each other as husband wife...it always happens....
agar ek ki kisi se koi prob ho jaye to jahir si baat hai dusara bhi baat nahin karega coz its just like two bodies one soul......
am i right ppl??????? i guess i am....
but whats the point in discussing this old boring story especially whn everything is back to normal allmost..... but all i wanna say to both the ppl involved in this story is :---
" hey am really sorry...n i neevr had any intention to hurt both of u by means of my blog its was just my state of my mind at that time...but lets try ki ab yeh dosti na tute....... keep-smiling always..n all the very best for ur future....."
n this goes out for my another very special fren....
hey buddy am sorry yaar i know tum pichle kuch dino se mujhe kuch samjhana cha rahi ho n mein bada rudely reply kar raha tha tumhe but yaar i hv answers to all ur questions.....but its just that i was so pissed off with my life in the past few days n was feeling very low n thats why i was giving u so irritating response......but am sorry......
the only reason i was doing this was because i didnt wanted a fight between us which was obvious because of my state of mind n hrt at that time..so i was just trying to avoid a discussion between us.... but i pomise i'll give answers n explanations to all the queries that r in ur mind......
but for now all i can say is am really sorry.....
Friday, April 28, 2006
Am Sooo LONELY
these days ppl ask me:-- vaibhav whats wrong yaar tum bahut tense n disturbed lagte ho...n infact i am feeling very low these days but why??? even i dont know why
then ppl say that u hv so many good frens...
but i dont know aisa lagta hai jaise dost hote huye bhi nahin hain...kaun dost hai kaun nahin yeh pata karna bahut mushkil hai...especially here in JUIT kaun kub badal jaye u never know...
i know even i hv some faults..well everyone have n so do i,,no one is made perfect but i just know one thing that agar mein kisi se dosti karta hun to seriouslly karta hun n hamesha saath deta hun koi self intrest ke liye kabhi kisi se dosti nahin karta... its always rt. frm my hrt...
but it seems that i'll have to change myself...
coz this world is not going to change the meening of the term friendship has changed but not for me...
i still take my frens as my life..
its not that all this applies to everyone,there r so many ppl in my life who are really good n are true frens..but still coz of some ppl i'll have to say "kaun kub badal jaye u never know..."
another issue:-- what do u think is fighting a solution of every problem...well i dont think so acc. to me its a temp. soln to a permanent prob..n ios it really very necessary to fight back,to kick back the person who kicks you...
can't a person who believes in love n frenship n who hates violence,who doesnt even like watching violent or action movies has the right to survive in this world...
well my answer is if u get satisfaction by fighting with me come n fight i promise mein haath bhi nahin uthaunga.... atleast its better than fighting back...which in turn gives rise to another fight n another...
well all i want to say to all the ppl whom i hv refered above is:--"plz leave me alone in my lonely world" its better to stay alone than to live with those ppl who dont know the meaning of frenship,,jo tubtak aapke dost hain jubtak unka koi matlab hai aapse after that u dont have any value...
pata nahin mein sahi hun ya galat but i just know one thing....
am soooo lonelyyyyy....
n i just remember this song in my present state of mind
Lonely
by Akon
Album : Trouble (2004)
>Lonely I'm Mr Lonely,
I have nobody,
For my owwnnn
I'm so lonely, I'm Mr. Lonely
I have nobody,
For my owwnnn
I'm so lonely,..........
am very thankfull to all my true frens for being there with me at all times....
n all i hope is that u all stay in touch with me always...
In Rahoon Main Tanha Si Ho Kar Aankhain Kitna Rooti Hain....
Wednesday, April 26, 2006
UNTITLED
but whatever he has written till now is worth reading..so plz do read it....
n nitin wishing u all the best....n complete it as soon as possible we r waiting waiting for it......
What does love give to you when you give everything for the love? The moment this question comes to your mind, I think love abandons you because love is special like a very small yet infinitely bright, flickering light which extinguishes with the slightest disturbance in the air.
So, hold your breath because you are in love. A journey which contains thousands of moments which will turn eternal in time. Her eyes, smile, twist in face, falling of hair etc things you never noticed until now. Ever given a thought what those eyes tell to you?
When you two were talking of simple things that day and suddenly something came over you and you grabbed her hand and she turned her head towards you as if shocked and met your gaze. You know these are the same eyes you have been looking since days yet there is something different. You don't look away, neither does she as if a question of ego has slipped in but the game is different and so is the enemy. It seems here in this game it doesn't matter you win or loose but you wish for this game go in eternity. You look into those eyes and wish they could speak or you could summarise what they are whispering in your ear as if they are telling thousand stories. You still don't look away and you notice she is getting uncomfortable. She clutches her hand, twists her body and tries to look away and turns her head little bit and then as if your gaze has hypnotized her , fails to turn away. She then wants to say something and there you see two sweat drops, one on the red cheek and one on the lips. Nervous she is- you think and before she could finish the stammer in the very first word she wants to speak, you put your finger on her mouth. When you became sure that she has got your direction you remove your finger off her lips but making sure that the sweat drop is removed by the little brush of your finger and her lips. While your finger was slowly moving away you felt a breath of warm air and your fingers tremble or was it her other hand which was in your palm since the very beginning.
LOVE- A PERFORMANCE ENHANCEMENT DRUG
Source:-http://himtimes.com/
¡Â®Falling¡Â¯, a word which often brings a wave of negative conclusions on hearing it. A deductive study, which reigns over the brains of almost all the homo-sapiens, would relate it to an array of conclusions like breaking, accident, dangerous sports, vertigo etc.
¡Â®Love¡Â¯, a human emotion which has for centuries mesmerized the already complex comprehension power of human beings. A simple four letter word, which is so entangled that when analyzed is found to force great writers to give special functions to a vital organ- heart. Though a serious physician would totally deny the involvement of heart in any major activity besides pumping blood but you still say to others that, ¡Â±see through your heart¡Â± or ¡Â°let your heart guide you¡Â±. While former is strictly a function of an eye, latter one owes it¡Â¯s debt to brain. Love is not just a simple emotion instead a state where even the smile of someone can bring butterflies in your stomach. It was love that forced the great Columbus to continue on his journey even when he was in dire straits - the love for adventure. A feeling which, is related with purity, elixir and positiveness unlike falling which is negative in nature.
So, the question arises that why do we fall in love? For centuries the answer to this question has remained incommunicado to it¡Â¯s seekers and will continue to do so probably even when the intelligence of humans will reach it¡Â¯s zenith. But an optimist never loses his hope perhaps he is also been hit by a cupid¡Â¯s arrow to find the ¡Â®Holy Grail¡Â¯- love.
Strange thing about love is that it is not just a mutual give-n-take emotion between humans. The omnipresence of love was so easily felt by people that one should not wonder that how it got its association with God. The spectrum of the different objects of love in the eyes of human beings is of infinite magnitude and therefore the association with God became necessary.
An environmentalist may only love green hills while you find your love interest in your girlfriend alone and to make things more confusing your idiot friend thinks that his new car is his new love! The after affects of love could range from loving a thing, as small as a superficial anger on you beloved¡Â¯s face when every time the wind blows a lock of her hair in front of her eyes, to the fanatic expedition experts who love to scale down the big Mt. Everest., on every opportunity they get.
Life, a roller-coaster ride for men to experience different kind of feelings and emotions in every millionth part of the second they continue to live. You might be feeling sad because you didn¡Â¯t score well in exams but may be your cousin brother is partying on the beaches of Havana and feeling merry at the same moment. Every man living in his own pattern of feelings and no two patterns are same, however, all comprise of same constituents viz. happiness, sadness, melancholy, love etc. It¡Â¯s like the digits of the number ¡Â®PI¡Â¯( ¡Ã‡ ) and every human living somewhere within it and no two patterns are same though the numbers used are from 0-9 only.
So how does love, a just another feeling, becomes a performance enhancement drug? If every human lives through a same set of innumerable emotions although they may pass it in a unique manner then why do people are still happy and contended when they have a serious argument with their love? Or why did Manoj Pandey, a Kargil war hero, didn¡Â¯t turn his back when he found out that his force was outnumbered by the enemy? Although a lover going through a rough patch would out rightly reject the idea of his mind feeling satisfaction or high but then it would make the popularity of romantic sad songs a hoax and the heroic efforts of Manoj Pandey, a myth.
The stark difference between a pain caused by burn and the pain caused in love is as conspicuous as the blue sky and obviously the latter is much better to happen as it has an ineffable sweetness of being sad, a loner and so many shades of the melancholic life to which you will detest if you are not in love.
We observe here that love-an emotion or a feeling when amalgamated with a passing emotion paves a smoother path to survive through the latter. Manoj Pandey, like any other mortal being must have felt chills through his spine on getting into the enemy bunkers but we forget that there was another feeling that was assisting him and that was love for his nation.
If you do not love computer programming and doing it, then inevitably you will end up being a bored and sad person. A friend who is girl is a good option but a girl friend is anytime better and same goes with choosing a job of your choice or love instead of a job that could fetch you fortunes. Once love is infused in your life, living all other emotions or simply life, becomes a treat. All you will be able to recall is her face, smiles, phone calls and kisses in the former case while a satisfactory innovative job life in the latter.
Tendulkar hitting 67 centuries and Einstien discovering that E=mc2 were no flukes. They all had an instilled passion and love for their respective fields so even when their life was low they smoothly passed it because of this ¡Â®performance enhancement drug¡Â¯- love.
The truth is that miracles do happen very often. All you need is an eye to see them. A man getting invisible on his discretion is not a miracle. It is simply a magic. A single mother of two, coming late to home from work and still finding time to play with her kids is a miracle and none other than ¡Â®love¡Â¯ has the capability in this cold universe to make it into a reality.
Fall in love, not just with the opposite sex but anything that you presume to be your life because no matter how deep you will fall but you will walk through all the other emotions or situations in your life like walking on a strawberry cake. So next time when you propose to her and say that,¡Â± you are my power, my pleasure, my pain¡Â±, pray to God that she agrees because life devoid of love is like falling into a hell.
Sunday, April 9, 2006
Singapore Trip
well actually nothing much happened but the best part is i went on a holiday to singapore n that too alone....what say.......
n if any of u wanna see some of the selected pics of my trip u r most welcome just visit my
photo gallery
so just tc n keep--smilinggg
Friday, March 10, 2006
DOST...SELF COMPOSED
mano to poori zindagi...
kehte hain dost milte hain naseeb se,
mera to naseeb hai is dost se...
log aatein hain,jaatein hai,
bus yaadein chood jate hain...
par unme se kuch log dil mein sama jaatein hain...
dosti ki misaal hai mera yeh dost
sub logon sekhaas hai mera yeh dost
ab aur kya kahen hum,
bus jindagi se bhi ajeej hai mera yeh dost...
Dost dekho to sirf char akshar,
mano to poori zindagi..."
SELF COMPOSED...
i dont know aapko yeh lines kaisi lagengi but this is something that came out from my heart plz do read it.....
pyar bhi hai,vishwas bhi hai...
par fir bhi is dil ko kisi ka intezaar hai
kuch baatein hain,kuch yaadein hai...
par fir bhi is dil ko kisi ki intezaar hai
dost hazar hain,pyar beshumar hai..
par fir bhi is dil ko kisi ka intezaar hai
darr lagta hai kisi ke aane ka...
aakar fir chale jaane ka..
par fir bhi is dil ko kisi ka intezaar hai
Aaj in hawaon mein ek ajeeb si baat hai...
aur is dil ko kisi ka intezaar hai...
bus intezaar hai....."
Saturday, March 4, 2006
sound from my heart...{3-2-06}--sequel to last two entries...
hey ppl this blog entry is actually a sequel of my last two entries.....aaj bus baithe baithe dil mein ek khayal aaya kya maine apni last two blog entries post karke kuch galat to nahin kiya...coz yaaron aaj aisa lagta hai ki agar hum acha dost hun to mere mein itni understanding to honi hi chahiye ki yeh samaj sakun dosti ka rishta is nowhere compareble to relation of love... dost hun to unke pyar ko samjna chahiye mujhe naki apni dosti ko lekar unki life mein taang adani chahiye balki mujhe to unke love ko badne dena chahiye naki usme taang adani chahiye shayad yahi dosti hai....what do u think guys....pata nahin ek din socha tha ki ab mein use dost nahin kahunga but frens aaj bhi mein kisi se uske baare mein kuch galat nahin sun sakta n hamari dosti bahut achi thi n i think it still is n this is the call of this relationship that i shud stop thinking abt myself n let their love grow....afterall dosti ka asli matlab bhi to yahi hota hai ki dusere dost humesha khush rahe...i want that only....am really sorry dear fren....n i wish all the best for ur relationship...all i can say is tc n keep--smilingg always.............
hey ppl probably this is my last entry for this topic.....agar kisi ko meri in teen blog entries se kuch prob huyi ho to for that am really very sorry....my intution was not to hurt any1.....
waiting for ur feedback....
Saturday, February 18, 2006
Have you lost your identity??
disclaimer:-both of these blogs are in any sense not a personal comment to anyone its just represents my personal feelings....
Have you lost your identity?
Read on to know if you have started to alter yourself and your lifestyle just to suit your partner
Being in love is a fantastic feeling. However, there are those who remain loving and are able to maintain their identity and there is another set of people who go slightly off balance when they get into a relationship. Do you ever notice that small things about you and your lifestyle have changed ever since you got involved with your current partner? The following are a few signs you need to look out for that would indicate you are allowing a little too much control by your partner on yourself, which could or could not be your partner's doing. Even you might not realise your change in behaviour until it's too late. If the following applies to you, it is time to reconsider your priorities:
ALWAYS CALLING! Your partner has all your phone numbers and is calling you at least five to six times a day. He or she knows what time to call you at work, when you're out or even when you are at home. While most individuals would know this is a sign of over obsessive behaviour, you may think otherwise because at the moment you are so in love. But understand that when you encourage such behaviour it does not get better it only gets worse, because in many ways you are feeding your partner's insecurities.
CHANGE IN PERSONALITY If your friends have begun to notice a change in your character or personality and not necessarily a good change, listen to them. Hopefully you have friends who look out for you and if they express concern over how much you have changed as a person, figure out if any of these changes can be attributed to your current partner. If yes, put a stop to it immediately and pull yourself together. It is important to be who you are. Remember change is a good thing only if it is in the form of growth.
NO FRIENDS
Do you feel that all the people you were closest to have started to associate with you a lot less? If this is the case it means on some level you have given priority to your partner over your friends. No one is asking you to ignore the love in your life, but if you are spending so much time with your partner that you start to lose friends, you are heading in a very wrong direction. Friends are an important part of your life so give them the time and space that they deserve. Besides, if ever you break-up with your partner, it will be your friends who stick by you.
THE LOVE LINGO The ‘koochie koo' factor is an unavoidable tragedy that most lovers indulge in. However, don't forget that you are an adult and to get all mush in the bedroom or your private space is all good. If you find yourself using the candy floss lingo in every walk of life, it is a sure sign that you are letting your personal life flow into your professional life. Keep the terms of endearment between you and your partner; behaving like a love sick puppy all the time will do you more harm than good.
CHANGING TASTES Many people often make the mistake of trying to force themselves to like or dislike something, just to comply with what their partners appreciate in life. If you are deliberately changing what you like just to make him or her happy it means you are trying too hard. At the end of the day you will eventually want to return to your own likes and dislikes so stop trying to force it and just stick to doing the things you want to do.
FOLLOWING RULES This is a classic example of how a person can totally lose control of him or herself when in a relationship. If your partner is implementing rules of conduct and behaviour for you and you start to follow those rules, you are definitely on a downward spiral. You need to live life by your own rules and can't be enslaved to another person. Respect yourself and who you are. Being in a relationship or committed to someone does not mean you lose your own identity. So learn to be your own person instead of turning into somebody else's shadow.
(Mumbai Mirror)
so frens what do u feel abt this article or my blog do comment
Thursday, February 16, 2006
self composed quote
so guys what do u think don't u think whn love enters some1's life they tend to forget their frens..is frenship a very weak relationship.....????????? waiting for ur comments......
Friday, February 10, 2006
The ABC's of Celebrating Love!
The ABC's of Celebrating Love!
To be a special Valentine to your partner takes lots of energy, time, attention and Love. Let's all give some thought about who we are being in our relationship, what we can do to make them better and who we will have to become to have them be healthy and successful. Let's make EVERYDAY Valentine's Day for our partner.
Let's begin with the premise that relationships are something that must be worked on all the time, not only when they are broken and need to be fixed!
Here are a few ideas to get you started!
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A | Absolutely amaze your partner with adoration. Let them know in very special ways that you care. Exercise extravagant respect and devotion toward your lover. Accept them for who they are. Demonstrate your warm attachment and affection to them. Avoid taking your partner for granted. |
B | Believe in your instincts. Be spontaneous. Don't plan. . . just do something that you've wanted to do with your partner for a long time. Let your love occur naturally. Stop and pick a roadside flower and present it to your partner. |
C | Cuddle. Lie close and be cozy. Do spoons! Just hold each other. There is a very special healing power in a close, warm embrace. C is also for "considerate." |
D | Discover new ways of expressing your love for each other. Hire a skywriter. Put a message up on a billboard. Buy a radio commercial to say I love you. Record a special message on a cassette. |
E | Entice your lover to try a new way of making love. Always making love the same way can bring on boredom. Focus on pleasure. Enjoy each other to the fullest. Read, Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers. |
F | Flirt for fun and frivolity. Be creative in your flirting. Pretend you are together for the first time or that you are trying to pick up your lover. |
G | Gaze into each other's eyes with a steady intention to say, "I love you" without words. Smile. Notice the eye color. Say something nice about them. Be generous with your love. |
H | Have a private party for just the two of you. Candles, music, the works. Talk. Listen. Express your love for one another. |
I | Indulge each other's desires. Write your secret desires on pieces of paper and trade. You may be surprised. |
J | Joke and have fun together. Lighten up. Be joyous. Release your sense of humor. Have fun with love. |
K | Kissy. . . kissy. . . kissy! Quick pecks on the cheek don't work. Give your partner an unexpected, looooooong, juicy kiss. Be keen on kissing! |
L | Love with all your heart and soul. Always remember to speak, "I love you" at least once each day. Express love in new and exciting ways. Remember to love yourself and do nice things for you too. |
M | Massage away the day's tension and stress. Begin with the feet and work up. Surprise your lover with your magic fingers or tantalizing tongue. Buy some special massage oil; something that smells good. |
N | Nurture your need for nibbling. Nibble each other's earlobes or other parts of the body that feels good. Practice a soft, light, romantic nibble with your lover. Nibbling feels good. |
O | Offer breakfast in bed or some other surprise your lover might like. Be creative. Plan. Make it very special. |
P | Pretend you are long-lost, passionate lovers. Use your imagination. Think! What could you do that you haven't done for a long time? Do that. |
Q | Quote your lover a love poem or a special passage from a book or greeting card that expresses exactly how you feel. |
R | Remember the little things. Respect your partner by paying attention. Be aware when your partner's likes and dislikes. Notice what makes them happy and deliver more of that. |
S | Slow dance by candlelight or in the backyard in the moonlight. Get back to romance. Be sensitive to the romantic needs of your lover. Romantically impaired? Read, 1001 Ways to Be Romantic. |
T | Try a little tenderness. Be gentle. Practice the "soft touch." Go slow. Be intentional. |
U | Uncover your deepest feelings. Speak them or write them to your lover. Communicate them unwaveringly. Let your emotions express themselves with sensitivity, understanding and love. |
V | Vow your eternal love for each other. Renew your vows. Make some new ones. Look up the word "vow" in the dictionary. Live by your solemn promises. |
W | Watch a sunrise or sunset together. Bring a picnic basket with snacks and your favorite beverage. Let the warmth you feel for your partner be felt. |
X | X-plore your romantic dreams. Daydream about this one. Think. X-cellerate. Don't wait. Do something X-citing together; something you said you would do in the past, but you both have been putting off or making X-cuses about. |
Y | Yearn for each other's touch. Don't hold back. A hug-a-day pays dividends beyond your wildest imaginings. AND. . . it feels good to be touched by the one you love. |
Z | Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz in each other's arms. Zero in on being close. Touching feels good. Enhance your enjoyment by listening to your partner's breathing cycle and to their heartbeat. Inhale and exhale together. Become as one. |
Keep loving
As
Valentine Day Coming
Cheers
6 rules to be HAPPY: Free your heart from hatred; Free your mind from worries; Live simply; Expect less; Give more & Always have ME as UR FRIEND
This article is adapted from Larry's book, "LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing!" Author Larry James presents seminars nationally for singles and couples. .This was mailed to me by one of my friend.
Monday, February 6, 2006
plz read this story as it is really hrt touching
How could she do this to me? I threw her a hateful look and ran out. The next day at school..."Your mom only has one eye?!" and they taunted me.
I wished that my mom would just disappear from this world so I said to my mom, "Mom, why don't you have the other eye?! You're only going to make me a laughingstock. Why don't you just die?"
That night...I woke up, and went to the kitchen to get a glass of water. My mom was crying there, so quietly, as if she was afraid that she might wake me. I took a look at her, and then turned away. Because of the thing I had said to her earlier, there was something pinching at me in the corner of my heart. Even so, I hated my mother who was crying out of her one eye. So I told myself that I would grow up and become successful, because I hated my one-eyed mom and our desperate poverty.
Then I studied really hard. I left my mother and came to Seoul and studied, and got accepted in the Seoul University with all the confidence I had. Then, I got married. I bought a house of my own. Then I had kids, too. Now I'm living happily as a successful man. I like it here because it's a place that doesn't remind me of my mom. This happiness was getting bigger and bigger, when someone unexpected came to see me.
Then a wave of relief came upon me...one day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house. I lied to my wife saying that I was going on a business trip. After the reunion, I went down to the old shack, that I used to call a house...just out of curiosity there, I found my mother fallen on the cold ground. But I did not shed a single tear. She had a piece of paper in her hand.... it was a letter to me.
She wrote:
My son...
I think my life has been long enough now. And... I won't visit Seoul anymore... but would it be too much to ask if I wanted you to come visit me once in a while? I miss you so much. And I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion. But I decided not to go to the school.... For you... I'm sorry that I only have one eye, and I was an embarrassment for you. You see, when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye. As a mother, I couldn't stand watching you having to grow up with only one eye... so I gave you mine...I was so proud of my son that was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye. I was never upset at you for anything you did. The couple times that you were angry with me. I thought to myself, 'it's because he loves me.' I miss the times when you were still young around me.
I miss you so much. I love you. You mean the world to me.
My world shattered!!!
Then I cried for the person who lived for me... My MOTHER
I am not asking you guys to forward this email to anyone. Just pause for a moment and pray for our parents so that God gives them all the happiness that they rightfully deserve.......!!!!!
Wednesday, February 1, 2006
Gandhi didn't say Hey Ram while dying
"Gandhi did not say 'Hey Ram'. In fact, he did not utter any word when the bullets fired from Nathuram Godse's pistol pierced his chest," Bapu's personal assistant Venkita Kalyanam who claims to be a witness to the horrific event told a news conference on Sunday.
Kalyanam said he was just behind the Mahatma when he was shot dead in the Teen Murti area of New Delhi on January 30, 1948.
The 83-year-old Kalyanam, who hails from Thanjavur in Tamil Nadu, said politics in post-Independent India had taken an entirely different turn from what the Mahatma could have wished.
Sunday, January 29, 2006
3 cheers for them
Monday, January 23, 2006
"HOW WE FIRST MET"
Do you remember how we first met? It's one of the sweetest memories I possess I look back and see us both -- two strangers Meeting for the first time, and I wonder Who would have guessed then how our friendship would grow, And become as binding as only we both know. | ||
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Whether tempest blows, or gale, or storm, To know I have you to lean my head on Whether strife you encounter, or battle, or war I'm here for you, I'll be there when you call. | ||
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Maybe, when years and more have gone And I, with wrinkled cheeks, am forlorn Perhaps with hopes all dashed to the ground Perhaps dreams, all shattered, shall surround | ||
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The thought of you will still make me smile And I'll stop all who pass and say: "Wait a while" For though my eyes are weak and old And my mind is feeble, or so I'm told There remains one thing I can never forget For I still remember how we first met. | ||
Tuesday, January 17, 2006
poem by a terminally ill young girl
Have you ever watched kids On a merry-go-round?
Or listened to the rain Slapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight?
Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
You better slow down. Don't dance so fast.
Time is short. The music won't last.
Do you run through each day On the fly?
When you ask How are you? Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done Do you lie in your bed
With the next hundred chores
Running through your head?
You'd better slow down Don't dance so fast.
Time is short. The music won't last.
Ever told your child, We'll do it tomorrow?
And in your haste, Not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch,
Let a good friendship die
Cause you never had time
To call and say,"hi"
You'd better slow down. Don't dance so fast.
Time is short. The music won't last.
When you run so fast to get somewhere
You miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through your day,
It is like an unopened gift.... Thrown away.
Life is not a race. Do take it slower
Hear the music Before the song is over.